Hello hello!
I've been super MIA the past few months because it's been total crunch time for my thesis. But I'm back, finally have a little tiny bit of free time, and I am ready to talk about ANAL SEX with you guys.
"But Ella, you're a vagina expert, what do you know about butt stuff?"
A lot, actually. Let's get right into it.
Much like its sister, vaginal sex, anal is often rumored to hurt the first time. But guess what! It doesn't have to. Here's my trick for making it not hurt: L U B E. You're going to want to use a shit-ton. (Hehehe. No pun intended.)
Also, take it easy! A lot of people make the mistake of jumping right into penis-in-butt sex, but I recommend that you start with a finger or a small toy. This can help with vaginal sex too, if you find it uncomfortable. Dilate the anus slowly with a finger first, and see if it feels pleasurable for you. Then you can work up to a penis or dildo if you feel like you want to.
Another handy tip is to relax and visualize your butt muscles relaxing before anything enters into it. This actually helps, I swear! Also, please try to be super vigilant about consent and communication with anal (or any new sexual experience.) Talk to your partner. Try new positions. Grab more lube.
And just some final hygiene tips:
I've been super MIA the past few months because it's been total crunch time for my thesis. But I'm back, finally have a little tiny bit of free time, and I am ready to talk about ANAL SEX with you guys.
"But Ella, you're a vagina expert, what do you know about butt stuff?"
A lot, actually. Let's get right into it.
Much like its sister, vaginal sex, anal is often rumored to hurt the first time. But guess what! It doesn't have to. Here's my trick for making it not hurt: L U B E. You're going to want to use a shit-ton. (Hehehe. No pun intended.)
Also, take it easy! A lot of people make the mistake of jumping right into penis-in-butt sex, but I recommend that you start with a finger or a small toy. This can help with vaginal sex too, if you find it uncomfortable. Dilate the anus slowly with a finger first, and see if it feels pleasurable for you. Then you can work up to a penis or dildo if you feel like you want to.
Another handy tip is to relax and visualize your butt muscles relaxing before anything enters into it. This actually helps, I swear! Also, please try to be super vigilant about consent and communication with anal (or any new sexual experience.) Talk to your partner. Try new positions. Grab more lube.
And just some final hygiene tips:
- Anal can be messy and weird. Try not to be self-conscious if you fart or something. Put a towel down to catch any rogue lube or... other stuff. (Let's be transparent here. I'm referring to poop.)
- There is no need to do an enema or anally douche before anal sex. In fact, please don't do that. It isn't good for your butt.
- Don't do it if you're constipated! The insertion of anything will push on the stool in the rectum and that doesn't feel good. Also don't do it if you've been having diarrhea lately... Unless that's your kink. That is very risky business.
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