Happy National Orgasm Day!
Lately I've been really embracing the concept of pleasure, radical pleasure seeking and self pleasure as a means for healing and practicing self love. On National Orgasm day, I figured I'd take a minute to talk about the different types of orgasms, how to achieve them, and what to do when just none of it happens for you!
An orgasm, also referred to as 'coming' or 'cumming,' is a release of the built of sensation that happens at the climax of sexual pleasure, usually due to stimulation of the genitals.
There are so many different ways to come. For people with vaginas, there are clitoral orgasms, g-spot orgasms and cervical orgasms. Some vagina-owning people can also squirt, which is awesome.
For people with penises, there's the standard way, which I like to call 'old faithful' (like the geyser. Get it? Hehe.) During the penile orgasm, the penis contracts and releases, and expels semen from the testicles. There's also an orgasm that's caused by prostate stimulation, which doesn't happen for everyone. These orgasms happen when the person with the penis is having his prostate stimulated, usually through pressure in the rectum or on the perineum. These body types can also both experience spiritual, or sexless orgasms. These happen through breathwork, usually done through tantric sex, and sometimes through other yogic practices.
Cervical orgasms are not commonly known about, and some people think they're a myth. But I, personally, do not. Here's why.
With a clitoral orgasm, there is a definitive buildup and release of energy. It's a very concrete thing, which is good for people like me (who sometimes have trouble with the grey area of life.) Cervical orgasms, which happen when fingers, a dildo, a toy or a penis repeatedly 'bumps' or stimulates the cervix, are not like that. They're less of an intense wave of release, and more like soft waves of pleasure that radiate from your sexual organs all the way through the rest of your body. For some, having the cervix stimulated can feel weird because it's very deep penetration. For some others, like those with IUDs, it can even hurt. If you're unsure, take it slow with your cervix. But it's possible to feel intense pleasure from that area.
Sometimes, it's hard to come. Sometimes, you can't come at all. This could be for many reasons: lack of lubrication, a lack of emotional connection with your partner, certain medications like SSRIs and birth control, and even lowered sensitivity due to long-time vibrator use. If this sounds like you, talk to your doctor about what you can mess around with to alleviate this problem - and don't be hard on yourself. Your body is a complicated machine, and it needs specific buttons pressed in order to work.
Lately I've been really embracing the concept of pleasure, radical pleasure seeking and self pleasure as a means for healing and practicing self love. On National Orgasm day, I figured I'd take a minute to talk about the different types of orgasms, how to achieve them, and what to do when just none of it happens for you!
An orgasm, also referred to as 'coming' or 'cumming,' is a release of the built of sensation that happens at the climax of sexual pleasure, usually due to stimulation of the genitals.
There are so many different ways to come. For people with vaginas, there are clitoral orgasms, g-spot orgasms and cervical orgasms. Some vagina-owning people can also squirt, which is awesome.
For people with penises, there's the standard way, which I like to call 'old faithful' (like the geyser. Get it? Hehe.) During the penile orgasm, the penis contracts and releases, and expels semen from the testicles. There's also an orgasm that's caused by prostate stimulation, which doesn't happen for everyone. These orgasms happen when the person with the penis is having his prostate stimulated, usually through pressure in the rectum or on the perineum. These body types can also both experience spiritual, or sexless orgasms. These happen through breathwork, usually done through tantric sex, and sometimes through other yogic practices.
Cervical orgasms are not commonly known about, and some people think they're a myth. But I, personally, do not. Here's why.
With a clitoral orgasm, there is a definitive buildup and release of energy. It's a very concrete thing, which is good for people like me (who sometimes have trouble with the grey area of life.) Cervical orgasms, which happen when fingers, a dildo, a toy or a penis repeatedly 'bumps' or stimulates the cervix, are not like that. They're less of an intense wave of release, and more like soft waves of pleasure that radiate from your sexual organs all the way through the rest of your body. For some, having the cervix stimulated can feel weird because it's very deep penetration. For some others, like those with IUDs, it can even hurt. If you're unsure, take it slow with your cervix. But it's possible to feel intense pleasure from that area.
Sometimes, it's hard to come. Sometimes, you can't come at all. This could be for many reasons: lack of lubrication, a lack of emotional connection with your partner, certain medications like SSRIs and birth control, and even lowered sensitivity due to long-time vibrator use. If this sounds like you, talk to your doctor about what you can mess around with to alleviate this problem - and don't be hard on yourself. Your body is a complicated machine, and it needs specific buttons pressed in order to work.
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